As individuals, we are a reflection of our background and experiences. It is only natural to replicate how we experienced marriage, from that of our parents.
For people whose parents got separated or divorced due to one reason or another, it would take a lot of intentional and practical steps to outgrow the experience.
Most people do not share the pain they went through as a child during this period as they bottle these feelings within them. And in this part of the world where counselling and therapy sessions aren't seen as the ideal thing, it is evident why there are and will still be many failed marriages.
It takes two to tango. Have you healed from past sorrows? Has your prospective partner healed? These are life-saving questions. This painful experience might not even necessarily be a result of your parent's failed marriage but something that happened that touched the deepest part of your soul.
There is a crucial need to find someone who's equipped, who would listen to your deepest pains and worries. It is crucial to the fruitfulness of one's marriage.
Most times, silent treatment in relationships or courtships today is a pointer to finding an easy way out by not engaging to tackle issues on the ground, and this is how most marriages drift to the point of no return.
Hence, it is expedient that someone who's gone through a sorrowful experience finds healing before marriage. For some, it could be as a result of a breakup, an insult that made a dent from a dear person, or trauma could be caused by anything at all.
For healing to occur, you have to bare your heart to someone who can help proffer a solution. It will be difficult but at the end of the day, you will be a better person as a result.
The sad part of not getting healed before marriage is that one transmit that into the marriage and the person's children will have that DNA which will also affect their lives. So, it's wise to do the needful as soon as possible.
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